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\n\u201d But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take in hand. The victims commit themselves to you ; you are the helper of the fatherless\u201d<\/em>\n

Psalm 10:14<\/em><\/p>\n

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\n $\"\"$ After our fertility treatments I took some time to self reflect,do I want to be pregnant \u2026.. or did I want to be a mother? \u00a0In November 2002 we started researching our adoption options we looked into domestic as well as international however, all seemed all the expenses that were required plus the travel we knew we just could not afford to go that route. I came across a website for our local dept family & children services in my adoption search so we thought we\u2019d look into it. Our first introduction seemed pretty cut and dry, there were a lot of options to look into aside from adoption for instance there was<\/p>\n

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Foster to Adopt<\/span><\/li>\n
Foster Care<\/li>\n
Kinship Care<\/li>\n
Respite Home<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
We first signed up for the foster to adopt program because let\u2019s be honest here, I thought this would be the fastest way to adopt a child. We went to an adoption fair hosted by the Government of Alberta just to see what our options could be. While there we spoke with various adoption and social workers profiling children available for adoption, most of the children were categorised as special needs because they were part of a sib group or were slightly older than the age of 3 which made it a little more difficult for adoption as most couples are looking to adopt mostly newborns or children under the age of 2 years.<\/p>\n
We walked away with a mountain of information not to mention the paperwork that goes with it, shortly after we were contacted by an intake worker. To be perfectly honest the process was a blur of intake workers, interviews and paperwork\u2026\u2026\u00a0a lot\u00a0<\/strong>of paperwork. To start off we had to pick 3 references from family and friends as well as put together a profile for potential birth mothers who would pick out a suitable couple to raise their child. Because most of our family lived in BC I thought a fun thing to do was to send out disposable cameras and let them go crazy.<\/p>\n
On August 23 2003 we were accepted into the foster to adopt program, we were finally \u00a0one step closer to achieving our forever family. \u00a0Have you \u00a0ever heard the term hurry up and wait, well that\u2019s exactly what we did hurry up got the necessary things in order just so we could sit and wait. While doing so we took every class we could to pass the time while we waited for the call that could change our life in such a positive way. We were required to complete 9 hours of class time per month,most of our classmates new to the system had already received a placement and we were still waiting. Between all this my nesting instincts went into full gear. I started getting excited about a baby in our home,\u00a0I knew we could get that call anytime and I wanted to be ready. Our support worker Brenda would come over periodically to give us updates and fill out child desired forms.This was not one of our most easier tasks because we knew that our child would have some special needs. Lets face it when you adopt through the government getting a healthy blue-eyed blonde hair baby was not going to happen. To be honest that\u2019s not what we wanted, we were more than happy to take a child with special needs but picking from a list of ailments was challenging\u00a0. How do you pick, it\u2019s impossible to think of this casually we had to be realistic, we had to know our limits as hard as it was. I was feeling pretty anxious over all the waiting we were doing I would call Brenda at least once a week to see if she knew anything and it was always the same \u201cbe patient Jo something will come up.\u201d Unfortunately as things go Brenda was transferred out of the fta<\/strong> program and we were assigned a new worker. We met Teresa shortly after, she seemed really nice she was young and very eager to place a child into our home.<\/p>\n
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\u201d But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take in hand. The victims commit themselves to you ; you are the helper of the fatherless\u201d Psalm 10:14 \u00a0 After our fertility treatments I took some time to self reflect,do I want to be pregnant \u2026.. or did I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":true,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-161","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-foster-care"],"wppr_data":{"cwp_meta_box_check":"No","cwp_rev_product_name":"","cwp_rev_product_image":"","cwp_image_link":"image","cwp_rev_price":""},"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3Kor8-2B","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=161"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1612,"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161\/revisions\/1612"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=161"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=161"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bergenbearcubs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=161"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}